You ultimately become what you repeatedly do. If your habits aren’t helping you, they’re
hurting you. Here are a few examples of
the latter that will steal your happiness if you let them:
- 1. Focusing on
everyone’s story except your own.
Don’t be so satisfied with the success stories of others and
how things have gone for them that you forget to write your own. Unfold your own tale and bring it to
life. You have everything you need to
become what you are capable of becoming.
Incredible change happens when you decide to take control. This means consuming less and creating
more. It means refusing to let others do
your thinking, talking, and deciding for you.
It means learning to respect and use your own ideas and instincts to
write your passage.
If you want your life story to soar to new heights, you’ve
got to clear a path, reduce the time-sinks and burdens weighing you down, and
pick up the things that give you wings.
Keep your best wishes and your biggest goals close to your heart and
dedicate time to them every day. If you
truly care about what you do and you work diligently at it, there’s almost
nothing you can’t accomplish.
- 2. Waiting for the
Don’t buy into the myth of the perfect moment. Moments aren’t perfect; they’re what you make
them. So many people wait around for the
stars to align to do what they’re here to do.
The perfect moment, the perfect opportunity, the perfect state of being,
etc. Wake up! These states of perfection are myths. They do not exist.
Your ability to grow to your highest potential is directly
related to your willingness to act in the face of imperfection. You will come to succeed not by finding a
perfect moment, but by learning to see and use life’s imperfections
perfectly. Read The Power of Now.
- 3. Working for
nothing more than a paycheck.
Work without interest is imprisonment. Even if you aren’t super-passionate about
your work, you’ve got to at least be interested in it. When you design a lifestyle in which your
work is something you suffer through daily strictly to pay your bills, you end
up spending your entire life wishing you had someone else’s.
Think about it. This
is your life; your work will fill a large percentage of it. It’s not all about the money; it’s about
you. Ignore the propaganda, especially
from people who say, “Don’t let your work define you.” Reverse this message and mediate on it: “I will do work that defines me.” When the essence of who you are defines at
least some slice of the work you do for a living, that work generates
Bottom line: Interest
in your work puts quality in your output and happiness in your mind. Don’t settle for a paycheck. Shuffle around until you find work that
- 4. Harboring feelings
As Martin Luther King Jr. so profoundly said, “Darkness
cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do
that.” Truth be told, when we harbor
feelings of hate, it eventually gets the best of us. It takes control of us. We forget why we hate, what we hate, and whom
we hate – we simply hate for the sake of hating. And then, naturally, we begin to hate
Everything and everyone you hate rents permanent space in
both your head and heart. So if you want
to eliminate something or someone from your mind, don’t hate. Instead, disconnect yourself, move on, and
don’t look back. Read The Mastery of