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Jangan Berprasangka Buruk terhadap Orang Lain

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Ada seorang gadis menyewa rumah, bersebelahan dengan kontrakan rumah seorang ibu miskin dengan 2 anak.
Suatu malam tiba2 listrik padam. Dengan bantuan cahaya handphone gadis itu ke dapur untuk mengambil lilin. Tiba2 terdengar ada yg mengetuk pintu. Ternyata seorang anak miskin yg di sebelah rumahnya.

Anak itu bertanya dgn risau: " Kak, ada lilin tidak..?"
Gadis itu berfikir sejenak. Di benaknya tertanam kata 'JANGAN PINJAMKAN!' nanti mereka akan kebiasaan untuk terus2an meminta.
Maka si gadis menjawab: "TIDAK ADA..!"
Lalu si anak miskin berkata riang, "Saya sudah duga kakak tidak ada lilin.. Ini ada 2 lilin saya bawakan untuk kakak.. Kami khawatir karena kakak tinggal sendirian dan tidak ada lilin."
Si gadis merasa sangat bersalah. Dalam linangan air mata, dia memeluk anak kecil itu erat2.

"Jangan menilai atau berprasangka buruk terhadap orang lain hanya karena mereka terlihat miskin atau tidak mampu."

"Kekayaan tidak bergantung kepada seberapa banyak harta yang kita punya, tetapi seberapa kita mampu untuk berbagi kepada mereka yg tidak mampu."

Miskin bukan berarti tidak punya apa-apa dan kaya bukan berarti punya segalanya.

Mungkin hari ini kita diatas tanah, tapi esok lusa tanah pasti di atas kita

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Ketahuilah Nilai dari Dirimu Sendiri

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"Nak arloji milikku ini adalah warisan dari kakek buyutmu, usianya lebih dari 200 tahun". "Sebelum Ayah wariskan kepadamu, Ayah mau kamu bawa Arloji tua ini ke toko jam seberang jalan itu.
Katakan kepada pemilik toko bahwa kamu mau menjualnya.
Tanya berapa harganya"

Sang anak pergi dan tidak lama kemudian kembali lalu berkata :
"Pemilik toko jam itu bilang bahwa harganya cuma 5 dollar, karena ini adalah Arloji tua"

Kemudian si Ayah berkata :
"Sekarang coba kamu bawa Arloji ini ke toko barang-barang antik dan tanyakan harganya"

Si anak pergi lalu kembali dan berkata :
"Pemilik toko bilang, harga arloji ini mencapai 5000 dollar"

Sang Ayah berkata :
"Sekarang coba bawa ke museum dan katakan ke mereka bahwa kamu menjual Arloji tua ini"

Si anak pun pergi lalu kembali dan berkata :
"Mereka mendatangkan pakar Arloji untuk memperkirakan harganya, lalu mereka menawarkan 1 juta dollar untuk Arloji ini !!" 

Si Ayah berkata :
"Nak, aku sedang mengajarkanmu bahwa kamu hanya akan dihargai dengan benar ketika kamu berada di lingkungan yang tepat.

Oleh karena itu, jangan pernah kamu tinggal di tempat yang salah lalu marah karena tidak ada yang menghargaimu"

Karena mereka yang mengetahui nilai kamu akan selalu menghargaimu.

Maka jangan pernah bergaul ditempat tidak layak untukmu.

Ketahuilah Nilai dari Dirimu Sendiri.

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Belajarlah Sabar di Setiap Kejadian

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Ada seorang dermawan yang dari atas gedung menebar uang pecahan: 
Rp. 5.000,- 
Rp. 10.000,- 
Rp. 20.000,- 
Rp. 50.000,- 
Rp. 100.000,- 

Di bawah gedung, berkerumun banyak orang yang sibuk. Mereka saling berebut memunguti uang yang berserakan 'TANPA ADA YANG PEDULI sumber uang itu dari SIAPA..'

Suatu saat, Sang Dermawan naik lagi ke atas gedung tersebut dan kali ini beralih menebar kerikil-kerikil kecil ke dalam kerumunan orang yang ada di bawah. Sontak terjadi keramaian. Ada yang terkena di kepala, bahu, tangan, punggung dan anggota tubuh lainnya. Mereka panik dan marah, menengadah ke atas berusaha 'MENCARI TAHU dari mana sumber dari kerikil-kerikil tersebut dijatuhkan..'

Itulah sikap dari kebanyakan manusia.

Saat BERKAH (hal yang menguntungkan) datang, semua sibuk tanpa peduli siapa yang memberi dan sedikit sekali yang mampu berterima kasih dan mau mengucap syukur atas keberkahan tersebut.

Namun saat masalah datang, maka semua akan spontan mencari sumber masalah dan biang keroknya. Mereka akan serta-merta marah dan menyalahkan orang lain tanpa mau cari solusi lagi. 

'Apakah kita hanya mau menerima yang baik saja, tetapi tidak mau menerima yang buruk..?'
Kebanyakan dari kita tidak mau tahu bahwa hidup ini sebenarnya sudah satu paket, baik dan buruk, senang dan susah, semuanya satu kesatuan yang tak mungkin terpisahkan. 

Bila suatu ketika kita "kena giliran" menjalani hal-hal buruk dan susah, maka jalanilah dengan tabah dan tetap bersyukur, karena hanya itu kuncinya. 

Mau belajar SABAR?
Nanti kita akan ketemu dengan orang-orang yang keras kepala kepada kita. 

*Mau belajar MENGAMPUNI?* 
Nanti kita akan dipertemukan dengan orang-orang yang menyakiti kita. 

*Mau belajar MEMBERI?* 
Sebentar lagi kita akan dihadapkan degnan orang-orang yang berkekurangan. 

*Mau belajar RENDAH HATI?* 
Tunggu saja, nanti akan ada orang-orang yang merendahkan diri kita. 

Kabar buruknya, "HIDUP INI TAK AKAN ADA YANG SEMPURNA !"

Kabar baiknya, "KITA TAK PERLU HIDUP YANG SEMPURNA UNTUK BISA MENIKMATINYA !"

Apapun yang sedang kita hadapi, itulah PROSES BELAJAR MENJADI LEBIH BIJAKSANA & DEWASA. 
JANGAN MARAH & MENGGERUTU, tapi belajarlah dan responlah dengan benar. 

HIDUP ADALAH PROSES PEMBELAJARAN dan pembelajaran hanya bisa diperoleh pada situasi yang tidak sesuai harapan kita, bukan saat kita dalam kenyamanan. 

Jadilah "murid kehidupan" dengan BELAJAR BERSYUKUR & MENGAMBIL HAL YANG POSITIF dari setiap peristiwa yang kita hadapi. 

Berusahalah SABAR dalam kesedihan, 
Berusahalah SABAR dalam kekecewaan, 
Berusahalah SABAR dalam kesakitan, 
Berusahalah SABAR dalam musibah, 
Berusahalah SABAR dalam ujian hidup. 

SABAR itu susah, 
SABAR itu capek, 
SABAR itu sakit, 
SABAR itu bikin stres, 
Akan tetapi, jika kita mampu melewatinya, maka SABAR itu akan menjadi sebuah KEINDAHAN & ARTI dari sebuah KEHIDUPAN. 


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Berbuatlah Yang Terbaik Dan Biarkanlah Orang Lain Berkomentar Apapun

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Seekor ikan bertanya kepada kura-kura :
"Mengapa setiap kali kamu mengalami masalah selalu bersembunyi, masuk ke dalam cangkangmu...?"

Kura-kura menjawab :
"Apa penting pertanyaan itu aku jawab ?"

Ikan berkata :
"Semua mahluk di perairan ini mempertanyakan sifat-mu yang selalu bersembunyi jika ada masalah!"

Kura-kura berkata :
"Komentar orang lain.. Apakah itu penting...?
Aku tidak menghindar,
Aku tidak lari dari kenyataan,
Aku hanya mencari suasana yang lebih damai di dalam cangkangku."

Ikan bertanya lagi :
"Tetapi apakah kamu tidak peduli selalu jadi bahan pembicaraan?"

Kura-kura menjawab :
"Inilah alasan mengapa aku lebih panjang umur dari pada kalian.
Kalian terlalu sibuk mengurusi kehidupanku sampai kalian lupa siapa diri kalian,
Kalian terlalu sibuk memperhatikan diriku sampai kalian lupa siapa diri kalian."

"Dalam hidup ini kita sendiri yang menentukan pilihan.
Berbuatlah yang terbaik dan biarkanlah orang lain mau berkomentar apapun."

"Orang yang menyukaimu tetap akan membenarkanmu sekalipun kamu keliru."
"Sebaliknya orang yang membencimu selalu akan menyalahkanmu sekalipun kamu benar."

"Berapa banyak waktumu terbuang hanya untuk mengurusi kehidupan orang lain, sehingga kamu lupa pada dirimu sendiri kapan harus makan dan istirahat."

"Sayangi dirimu dengan lebih peduli pada urusanmu sendiri. Sebab engkau akan menjadi orang yang selalu kekurangan saat kamu selalu ingin tau urusan orang lain."

Sebaiknya kita tidak terkecoh dengan apa yang orang lain katakan.
Jadilah diri kita sendiri,
Jadi-lah pribadi yang baik....
Dan terus meneruslah berbuat baik 🙏🙏🙏

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The Deaf Frog

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As a group of frogs were traveling through the woods, two of them fell into a deep pit. When the other frogs crowded around the pit and saw how deep it was, they told the two frogs that they're was no hope left for them.
However, the two frogs decided to ignore what the others were saying and they proceeded to try and jump out of the pit. Despite their efforts, the group of frogs at the top of he pit were still saying that they should just give up. That they would never make it out.
Eventually, one of the frogs took heed to what the others were saying and he gave up, falling down to his death. The other frog continued to jump as hard as he could. Again, the crowd of frogs yelled at him to stop the pain and just die.
He jumped even harder and finally made it out. When he got out, the other frogs said, "Did you not hear us?"
The frog explained to them that he was deaf. He thought they were encouraging him the entire time.
Moral of the story: People's words can have a big effect on other's lives. Think about what you say before it comes out of your mouth. It might just be the difference between life and death.


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Here I Am

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Inspirational Video - You can be a hero too

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Be a good person.. even if there's no one notice..


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SUAMI ISTRI DI USIA SENJA

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✌Disebuah rumah sederhana yang asri, tinggal sepasang suami istri yang sudah memasuki usia senja.
Pasangan ini dikaruniai dua orang anak yang telah dewasa dan memiliki kehidupan sendiri yang mapan.

💢Sang suami merupakan seorang pensiunan sedangkan istrinya seorang ibu rumah tangga.
Suami istri ini lebih memilih untuk tetap tinggal dirumah, mereka menolak ketika putra-putri mereka menawarkan untuk ikut pindah bersama mereka.

💢Jadilah mereka, sepasang suami istri yang hampir renta itu menghabiskan waktu mereka yang tersisa dirumah yang telah menjadi saksi berjuta peristiwa dalam keluarga itu.

💢Suatu senja ba'da Isya disebuah masjid tak jauh dari rumah mereka, sang istri tidak menemukan sandal yang dikenakannya ke masjid tadi.
Saat sibuk mencari, suaminya datang menghampiri seraya bertanya mesra : "Kenapa Bu?"
Istrinya menoleh sambil menjawab "Sandal Ibu tidak ketemu Pak".
"Ya sudah pakai ini saja" kata suaminya sambil menyodorkan sandal yang dipakainya.
Walau agak ragu sang istri tetap memakai sandal itu dengan berat hati.

💢Menuruti perkataan suaminya adalah kebiasaannya.
Jarang sekali ia membantah apa yang dikatakan oleh sang suami.
Mengerti kegundahan istrinya, sang suami mengeratkan genggaman pada tangan istrinya.

💢"Bagaimanapun usahaku untuk ber terima kasih pada kaki istriku yang telah menopang hidupku selama puluhan tahun itu, takkan pernah setimpal terhadap apa yang telah dilakukannya".

💢Kaki yang selalu berlari kecil membukakan pintu untuk-ku saat aku pulang kerja,

💢Kaki yang telah mengantar anak-anak-ku ke sekolah tanpa kenal lelah, serta kaki yang menyusuri berbagai tempat mencari berbagai kebutuhanku dan anak-anakku".

💢Sang istri memandang suaminya sambil tersenyum dengan tulus dan merekapun mengarahkan langkah menuju rumah tempat bahagia bersama….

💢Karena usia yang telah lanjut dan penyakit diabetes yang dideritanya, sang istri mulai mangalami gangguan penglihatan.
Saat ia kesulitan merapikan kukunya, sang suami dengan lembut mengambil gunting kuku dari tangan istrinya.
Jari-jari yang mulai keriput itu dalam genggamannya mulai dirapikan dan setelah selesai sang suami mencium jari-jari itu dengan lembut dan bergumam :
"Terima kasih ya Bu ".
"Tidak, Ibu yang seharusnya berterima kasih sama Bapak, telah membantu memotong kuku Ibu" tukas sang istri tersipu malu.

💢"Terimakasih untuk semua pekerjaan luar biasa yang belum tentu sanggup aku lakukan.
Aku takjub betapa luar biasanya Ibu. Aku tahu semua takkan terbalas sampai kapanpun" kata suaminya tulus.

💢Dua titik bening menggantung disudut mata sang istri ......
"Bapak kok bicara begitu?
Ibu senang atas semuanya Pak, apa yang telah kita lalui bersama adalah sesuatu yang luar biasa.
Ibu selalu bersyukur atas semua yang dilimpahkan pada keluarga kita, baik ataupun buruk.
Semuanya dapat kita hadapi bersama."

💢Hari Jum'at yang cerah setelah beberapa hari hujan.
Siang itu sang suami bersiap hendak menunaikan ibadah Shalat Jum'at,
Setelah berpamitan pada sang istri, ia menoleh sekali lagi pada sang istri menatap tepat pada matanya sebelum akhirnya melangkah pergi.
Tak ada tanda yang tak biasa di mata dan perasaan sang istri hingga saat beberapa orang mengetuk pintu membawa kabar yang tak pernah diduganya.

✌Ternyata siang itu sang suami tercinta telah menyelesaikan perjalanannya di dunia.
Ia telah pulang menghadap Sang Penciptanya ketika sedang menjalankan ibadah Shalat Jum'at, tepatnya saat duduk membaca Tasyahud Akhir.

Masih dalam posisi duduk sempurna dengan telunjuk kearah Kiblat, ia menghadap Yang Maha Kuasa.
"Innaa Lillaahi Wainnaa ilaihi Rooji'uun"

💢"Subhanallah.... sungguh akhir perjalanan hidup yang indah" demikian gumam para jama'ah setelah menyadari ternyata dia telah tiada di akhir shalat Jum'at....

Sang istri terbayang tatapan terakhir suaminya saat mau berangkat ke masjid.
Terselip tanya dalam hatinya, mungkinkah itu sebagai tanda perpisahan pengganti ucapan "Selamat Tinggal"....
Ataukah suaminya khawatir meninggalkannya sendiri didunia ini. Ada gundah menggelayut dihati sang istri, Walau masih ada anak-anak yang akan mengurusnya,

💢Tapi kehilangan suami yang telah didampinginya selama puluhan tahun cukup membuatnya terguncang. Namun ia tidak mengurangi sedikitpun keikhlasan dihatinya yang bisa menghambat perjalanan sang suami menghadap Sang Khalik.

Dalam do'a dia selalu memohon kekuatan agar dapat bertahan dan juga memohon agar suaminya ditempatkan pada tempat yang layak.

💢Tak lama setelah kepergian suaminya, sang istri bermimpi bertemu dengan suaminya.
Dengan wajah yang cerah sang suami menghampiri istrinya dan menyisir rambut sang istri dengan lembut.
"Apa yang Bapak lakukan?' tanya istrinya senang bercampur bingung.
"Ibu harus kelihatan cantik, kita akan melakukan perjalanan panjang.
» Bapak tidak bisa tanpa Ibu, bahkan setelah kehidupan didunia ini berakhir sekalipun.
» Bapak selalu butuh Ibu.
» Saat disuruh memilih pendamping Bapak bingung, kemudian bilang pendampingnya tertinggal, Bapakpun mohon izin untuk menjemput Ibu."

💢Istrinya menangis sebelum akhirnya berkata :
"Ibu ikhlas Bapak pergi, tapi Ibu juga tidak bisa bohong kalau Ibu takut sekali tinggal sendirian....
Kalau ada kesempatan mendampingi Bapak sekali lagi dan untuk selamanya tentu saja tidak akan Ibu sia-siakan."
Sang istri mengakhiri tangisannya dan menggantinya dengan senyuman.

💝Senyuman indah dalam tidur panjang selamanya….
هُنَّ لِبَاسٌ لَّكُمْ وَأَنتُمْ لِبَاسٌ لَّهُنَّ

"Istri mu itu adalah 'Bajumu' dan Suami itu adalah 'Bajumu' pula"
QS Al-Baqarah : 187
Semoga bisa mempererat cinta kasih yg sejati..krn Allah.. 🍀

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How to Stop Procrastinating

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“Tomorrow is often the busiest day of the week.”
Spanish Proverb

“How soon ‘not now’ becomes ‘never’.”
Martin Luther

“A year from now you may wish you had started today.”
Karen Lamb

One of the most common problems is procrastination. We know what we want to do and should do. But still we end up spending hours upon hours doing “easier” work or escaping via TV, blogs or music.

Now, nothing wrong with a little escape from time to time. But if you procrastinate too much you will not get the most important things done. And you will also send yourself into negative spirals where your self-esteem plummets and you spend your days or more in a vague negative funk.

So what can you do? Here are 7 timeless tips to help you to stop procrastinating and start living your life more fully. And if you want to then you can learn much more about becoming more productive, focused and minimizing stress in my training kit The Art of Relaxed Productivity.

1. Stop thinking. Start doing.

“To think too long about doing a thing often becomes its undoing.”
Eva Young

A bit of planning can certainly help you to achieve what you want to achieve. A lot of planning and thinking tends to have the opposite effect.

You think and think and try to come up with “the perfect plan”. A plan where you don’t have to make mistakes, where you will never be rejected, where there will be no pain or difficulties. Such a thing does of course not exist. But as long as you work on that plan you can protect yourself.

2. Don’t blow a task out of proportion.

“If you want to make an easy job seem mighty hard, just keep putting off doing it.”
Olin Miller

”Putting off an easy thing makes it hard. Putting off a hard thing makes it impossible.”
George Claude Lorimer

By over thinking and putting things off you are not only trying to protect yourself from pain. You also make mountains out of molehills. The quotes above are so true it isn’t even funny. The more hours and days you put something off the worse it grows in your mind.

Because you are dwelling on it. And so it expands in your mind. And since you are putting it off you are probably thinking about it in a negative way. This makes a little thing a big Godzilla, a horrible beast that is threatening to ruin your life.

So plan a little and then take action.

Often you don’t even have to plan, you have been there before and you know what needs to be done. So stop thinking and just do it no matter how you feel and what you think. How you feel right now changes as quickly as the weather so it’s not the perfect guidance system or anything. And you don’t have to obey what it says (it’s not chains made of iron). You can just do what you know is right anyway.

3. Just take the first step.

“You don’t have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step.”
Martin Luther King, Jr.

When you start to look too far into the future any task or project can seem close to impossible. And so you shut down because you become overwhelmed and start surfing the internet aimlessly instead. That is one of the reasons why it is good to plan for the future but then to shift your focus back to today and the present moment.

Then you just focus on taking the first step today. That is all you need to focus on, nothing else. By taking the first step you change you mental state from resistant to “hey, I’m doing this, cool”. You put yourself in state where you become more positive and open, a state where you may not be enthusiastic about taking the next step after this first one but you are at least accepting it. And so you can take the next step. And the next one after that.

The thing is, you can’t see the whole staircase anyway and it will shift and reveal itself along the way. That’s why the best of plans tend to fall apart at least a bit as you start to put it into action. You discover that your map of reality doesn’t look like reality.

4. Start with the hardest task of your day.

“Do the hard jobs first. The easy jobs will take care of themselves.”
Dale Carnegie

Maybe you have an important call to make that you also fear might be uncomfortable. Maybe you know you have gotten behind on answering your emails and have big pile to dig into. Maybe you have the last five pages of your paper to finish.

Whatever it may be, get it out of your way the first thing you do.

If you start your day this way you will feel relieved. You feel relaxed and good about yourself. And the rest of the day – and your to-do list – tends to feel a lot lighter and easier to move through. It’s amazing what difference this one action makes.

5. Just make a decision. Any decision.

“In a moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing to do, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing.”
Theodore Roosevelt

We feel bad when we sit on our hands and don’t take action because it’s unnatural. The natural thing is to be a decisive human and take action.

When you procrastinate you want to do something but you don’t take the action that is in alignment with that thought. You become conflicted within.

What you do always sends signals back to you about who you are. Sure, doing affirmations where you say to yourself that you are confident can help you. But taking the confident actions you want to take over and over again is what really builds your self confidence and a self-image of you being a confident person. When you procrastinate you lower your self esteem and send signals back to yourself that you are a ,well, a kinda lame and indecisive person.

6. Face your fear.

“Procrastination is the fear of success. People procrastinate because they are afraid of the success that they know will result if they move ahead now. Because success is heavy, carries a responsibility with it, it is much easier to procrastinate and live on the “someday I’ll” philosophy.”
Denis Waitley

I think this is true. It’s easier to live on that “someday…” thought. It’s harder to just take action. To risk looking like a fool. To make mistakes, stumble and not avoid that pain. To take responsibility for your own life.

The easier choice can come with a sense of comfort, with a certain level of success, pangs of regret for all the things you never dared to do and a vague sense of being unfulfilled. You wonder about what would have happened if you had taken more action and more chances.

The harder choice gives you, well, who knows? But it will sure make your feel more alive.

7. Finish it.

“Nothing is so fatiguing as the eternal hanging on of an uncompleted task”
William James

“Much of the stress that people feel doesn’t come from having too much to do. It comes from not finishing what they started.”
David Allen

Not taking the first step to start accomplishing something can make you feel bad. But not finishing what you have started can also leave you in a sort of negative funk. You feel fatigued or stressed and sometimes you don’t even know why. It’s like someone zapped your inner power.

If that is the case, go over tasks and projects what you are currently involved in. Is there something there you know you want to finish but haven’t yet? Try to get that finished as soon as you can you will start to feel a whole lot better.

Just be careful. Don’t think you have to finish everything you started. If a book sucks, read something else. Using this as an excuse to quit something that feels hard or unfamiliar is not a good idea. But there is no law that says that everything has to be completed.

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THERE LIVED A LONELY OLD MAN IN THE VILLAGE...

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There lived a lonely old man in the village. In the evenings the local boys used to play close to his house. The games were accompanied with loud cries.

The old man was done with it, so one evening he invited the boys into his house. He told them how much he likes listening to loud children voices, and promised to give each of them a dollar if they promise to come again tomorrow.

The boys came and played even more cheerfully and loudly. The old man paid them and promised to pay again the next time.

But the next evening instead of one dollar, the boys got 50 cents.

On the third evening the old man paid them only 10 cents and explained that he’s running out of money.

– Dear children, – he asked, – would you agree to come again tomorrow and just play?

Extremely disappointed, the boys said that they won’t come anymore. Is it worth losing so much energy for free?


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The Hedgehog

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It was the coldest winter ever. Many animals died because of the cold.

The hedgehogs, realizing the situation, decided to group together to keep warm. This way they covered and protected themselves; but the quills of each one wounded their closest companions.

After awhile, they decided to distance themselves one from the other and they began to die, alone and frozen. So they had to make a choice: either accept the quills of their companions or disappear from the Earth.

Wisely, they decided to go back to being together. They learned to live with the little wounds caused by the close relationship with their companions in order to receive the heat that came from the others. This way they were able to survive.

The best relationship is not the one that brings together perfect people, but when each individual learns to live with the imperfections of others and can admire the other person's good qualities.


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Triple Filter Test for Gossip

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In ancient Greece, Socrates was reputed to hold knowledge in high esteem. One day an acquaintance met the great philosopher and said, "Do you know what I just heard about your friend?"

"Hold on a minute", Socrates replied. "Before telling me anything I'd like you to pass a little test. It's called the Triple Filter Test."

"Triple filter?"

"That's right", Socrates continued. "Before you talk to me about my friend, it might be a good idea to take a moment and filter what you're going to say. That's why I call it the triple filter test.

The first filter is Truth. Have you made absolutely sure that what you are about to tell me is true?"

"No,",the man said, "Actually I just heard about it and ..."

"All right", said Socrates. "So you don't really know if it's true or not.

Now let's try the second filter, the filter of Goodness. Is what you are about to tell me about my friend something good?"

"No, on the contrary."

"So", Socrates continued, "you want to tell me something bad about him, but you're not certain it's true. You may still pass the test though, because there's one filter left.

The third is filter of Usefulness. Is what you want to tell me about my friend going to be useful to me?"

"No, not really."

"Well", concluded Socrates, "if what you want to tell me is neither true nor good nor even useful, why tell it to me at all?"

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The Carrot, The Egg, and The Coffee Bean

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A young woman went to her mother and told her about her life and how things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up. She was tired of fighting and struggling. It seemed that, as one problem was solved, a new one arose.

Her mother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water and placed each on a high fire. Soon the pots came to a boil. In the first, she placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs, and in the last she placed ground coffee beans.

She let them sit and boil, without saying a word. In about twenty minutes, she turned off the burners. She fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl. Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl. Turning to her daughter, she asked, "Tell me, what do you see?"

"Carrots, eggs, and coffee," the young woman replied. The mother brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they were soft. She then asked her to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard-boiled egg. Finally, she asked her to sip the coffee. The daughter smiled as she tasted its rich aroma. The daughter then asked, "What does it mean, mother?"

Her mother explained that each of these objects had faced the same adversity - boiling water - but each reacted differently.

The carrot went in strong, hard and unrelenting. However, after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak.
The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior. But, after sitting through the boiling water, its inside became hardened.
The ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they were in the boiling water, they had changed the water.

"Which one are you?" the mother asked her daughter. "When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg, or a coffee bean?" Think of this: Which one am I?
Am I the carrot that seems strong but, with pain and adversity, do I wilt and become soft and lose my strength?
Am I the egg that starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the heat? Did I have a fluid spirit but, after a death, a breakup, or a financial hardship, does my shell look the same, but on the inside am I bitter and tough with a stiff spirit and a hardened heart?
Or am I like the coffee bean? The bean actually changes the hot water, the circumstance that brings the pain. When the water gets hot, it releases the fragrance and flavor.

If you are like the bean, when things are at their worst, you get better and change the situation around you. When the hours are the darkest and trials are their greatest, do you elevate to another level? How do you handle adversity? Are you a carrot, an egg, or a coffee bean?

Source : thelivingtreasure.com


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Thinking "Out of the Box"

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Many hundreds of years ago in a small Italian town, a merchant had the misfortune of owing a large sum of money to the moneylender. The moneylender, who was old and ugly, fancied the merchant's beautiful daughter so he proposed a bargain. He said he would forgo the merchant's debt if he could marry the daughter. Both the merchant and his daughter were horrified by the proposal.

The moneylender told them that he would put a black pebble and a white pebble into an empty bag. The girl would then have to pick one pebble from the bag. If she picked the black pebble, she would become the moneylender's wife and her father's debt would be forgiven. If she picked the white pebble she need not marry him and her father's debt would still be forgiven. But if she refused to pick a pebble, her father would be thrown into jail.

They were standing on a pebble strewn path in the merchant's garden. As they talked, the moneylender bent over to pick up two pebbles. As he picked them up, the sharp-eyed girl noticed that he had picked up two black pebbles and put them into the bag. He then asked the girl to pick her pebble from the bag.

What would you have done if you were the girl? If you had to advise her, what would you have told her? Careful analysis would produce three possibilities:

1. The girl should refuse to take a pebble.
2. The girl should show that there were two black pebbles in the bag and expose the moneylender as a cheat.
3. The girl should pick a black pebble and sacrifice herself in order to save her father from his debt and imprisonment.

The above story is used with the hope that it will make us appreciate the difference between lateral and logical thinking.
The girl put her hand into the moneybag and drew out a pebble. Without looking at it, she fumbled and let it fall onto the pebble-strewn path where it immediately became lost among all the other pebbles.

"Oh, how clumsy of me," she said. "But never mind, if you look into the bag for the one that is left, you will be able to tell which pebble I picked." Since the remaining pebble is black, it must be assumed that she had picked the white one. And since the moneylender dared not admit his dishonesty, the girl changed what seemed an impossible situation into an advantageous one.

MORAL OF THE STORY: Most complex problems do have a solution, sometimes we have to think about them in a different way.


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Reaction vs. Response

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Suddenly, a cockroach flew from somewhere and sat on her. I wondered if this was the cockroach’s response to all the glory that was spoken about it! 

She started screaming out of fear. With panic stricken face and trembling voice, she started doing jumping, with both her hands desperately trying to get rid of the cockroach. Her reaction was contagious, as everyone in her group got cranky to what was happening. The lady finally managed to push the cockroach to another lady in the group. Now, it was the turn of the other lady in the group to continue the drama. 

The waiter rushed forward to their rescue. In the relay of throwing, the cockroach next fell upon the waiter. The waiter stood firm, composed himself and observed the behavior of the cockroach on his shirt. When he was confident enough, he grabbed and threw it out with his fingers.


Sipping my coffee and watching the amusement, the antenna of my mind picked up a few thoughts and started wondering, was the cockroach responsible for their histrionic behavior? If so, then why was the waiter not disturbed? He handled it near to perfection, without any chaos. It is not the cockroach, but the inability of the ladies to handle the disturbance caused by the cockroach that disturbed the ladies.


I realized even in my case then , it is not the shouting of my father or my boss that disturbs me, but its my inability to handle the disturbances caused by their shouting that disturbs me.

It’s not the traffic jams on the road that disturbs me, but my inability to handle the disturbance caused by the traffic jam that disturbs me.

More than the problem, it’s my reaction to the problem that hurts me.

Lessons learnt from the story:

I understood, I should not react in life. I should always respond.

The women reacted, whereas the waiter responded.

Reactions are always instinctive whereas responses are always intellectual...


Source : thelivingtreasure.com
Image Source : shutterstock.com


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