What a Man Craves in a Woman

Admiration

One thing that men crave is admiration. As boys, they fantasize about scoring the winning point in the championship game, or being applauded by thousands of screaming fans. As they grow up, they reach a point where they know the championship game or rock star fantasy is just…a fantasy. They probably aren’t going to be the President or the CEO. They’re just another regular guy. And the only source of true admiration is going to be a family.

Respect

Every day, men battle for respect. In business, hobbies, and traffic, respect isn’t easily earned. And it may be easily lost when a company downsizes, or a new guy with more sports talent or a better collection arrives. And in a world where there are dozens of people he has to respect, whether they’re potential customers or strangers driving erratically who may be packing a .38 in the console, a man looks forward to the respect of a girlfriend or wife.

Trust

In our ever-changing world, trust is increasingly difficult to come by. Employers do background checks. Volunteer youth workers at church are fingerprinted. You may even need to pass an investigation before you can adopt a shelter dog. Internet dates give fake names and throwaway phone numbers. And the less trusted a man is, the more likely he is to be tempted to live down to other people’s expectations.

Faithfulness

Most men prefer dogs to cats. In large part, this is due to the fact that dogs are faithful companions. A dog is always happy when you arrive home, and lets you know how glad he is to see you. Cats on the other hand seem to pride themselves on acting like they could care less if you’re there or not. Men like to be the most important thing in someone’s world.

Love

Above all men crave love. A wise person once said “You like someone Because; you love them In Spite Of.” Most men are painfully aware of their imperfections and deep down may not believe they deserve to be loved. So finding a woman who can make them feel loved and deserving of love can satisfy a deep unspoken craving. They may not realize how much they need to be loved until they actually experience genuine mature love. It make take them a while to differentiate between love and sex.

In a mature relationship, each party contributes to the emotional security of the other by satisfying these cravings. All relationships have ups and downs. All individuals have imperfections and annoying habits. It is the emotional support that make it worthwhile to preserve a relationship through the many challenges.

Meeting those needs can put you well on your way to “happily ever after”.

Source: www.selfgrowth.com

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Look Within To Find Happiness

A close friend said' "If I could only figure this out, I think I could find happiness." I have heard this before and will hear it again I am sure.

Many people want to believe that finding happiness is all about finding something else they want. Not many have ever found long term happiness by achieving another goal. The answer to finding happiness is to look within.

In other words, happiness is completely an inside job. The most important piece to finding happiness is to comprehend happiness is a choice and not the result of an experience. If all happiness could be found as the result of an acquisition, meeting a goal, or having anything, then a person's happiness would always be subject to something else.

Remember this: one definition of happiness is simply the absence of an opposite emotion whether it is pain, sadness or something else. If the opposite emotions are never experienced then happiness can never be experienced either. Think about it like this: bad times allow you to appreciate good times; hunger allows you to appreciate food; and sadness allows you to appreciate and experience happiness.

The dictionary defines happiness as enjoying, showing, or marked by pleasure, satisfaction or joy.

How often do you hear... "I'll be happy when"? When I get that job, I'll be happy. I'll be happy when I find a life partner. I'd be happy if I had more money.

These, and all the other "if I had", scenarios are following the same reasoning; that happiness is based on external circumstances.

If you base your happiness on external circumstances, you will continuously fail to find happiness. There will always, always be another external circumstance. There will always be another dollar, another job, another house, or another partner. Better, more, else.

To break this vicious cycle, we must find our happiness somewhere else. That somewhere else is within. We have been given everything we need to be happy.

Allow yourself to choose happiness. If life was perfect would you be happy? Life is perfect because we create it with our choices. Since we can create life, we can create happiness - and how much better can it get?

When we can accept that life is perfect as it is and that our lives are the sum total of everything that has happened to this instant, only then can we accept the joy and happiness we deserve.

I realize that this concept is very difficult for some to accept. However, the alternative to being happy now is to spend the rest of our lives seeking happiness as if happiness was an item to be bought or found.

It's not. Just remember the saying - Don't worry - be happy!

Source : www.motivateus.com

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15 Fascinating Facts About Smiling

Everyone loves the quote “laughter is the best medicine,” and as a nurse, I have experienced the benefits of smiling and laughter with my patients. In fact, smiling can boost your mood and even your immune system. Keep reading for more fascinating facts about our smiles.

1. Forcing yourself to smile can boost your mood: Psychologists have found that even if you’re in bad mood, you can instantly lift your spirits by forcing yourself to smile.
2. It boosts your immune system: Smiling really can improve your physical health, too. Your body is more relaxed when you smile, which contributes to good health and a stronger immune system.
3. Smiles are contagious: It’s not just a saying: smiling really is contagious, scientists say. In a study conducted in Sweden, people had difficulty frowning when they looked at other subjects who were smiling, and their muscles twitched into smiles all on their own.
4. Smiles Relieve Stress: Your body immediately releases endorphins when you smile, even when you force it. This sudden change in mood will help you feel better and release stress.
5. It’s easier to smile than to frown: Scientists have discovered that your body has to work harder and use more muscles to frown than it does to smile.
6. It’s a universal sign of happiness: While hand shakes, hugs, and bows all have varying meanings across cultures, smiling is known around the world and in all cultures as a sign of happiness and acceptance.
7. We still smile at work: While we smile less at work than we do at home, 30% of subjects in a research study smiled five to 20 times a day, and 28% smiled over 20 times per day at the office.
8. Smiles use from 5 to 53 facial muscles: Just smiling can require your body to use up to 53 muscles, but some smiles only use 5 muscle movements.
9. Babies are born with the ability to smile: Babies learn a lot of behaviors and sounds from watching the people around them, but scientists believe that all babies are born with the ability, since even blind babies smile.
10. Smiling helps you get promoted: Smiles make a person seem more attractive, sociable and confident, and people who smile more are more likely to get a promotion.
11. Smiles are the most easily recognizable facial expression: People can recognize smiles from up to 300 feet away, making it the most easily recognizable facial expression.
12. Women smile more than men: Generally, women smile more than men, but when they participate in similar work or social roles, they smile the same amount. This finding leads scientists to believe that gender roles are quite flexible. Boy babies, though, do smile less than girl babies, who also make more eye contact.
13. Smiles are more attractive than makeup: A research study conducted by Orbit Complete discovered that 69% of people find women more attractive when they smile than when they are wearing makeup.
14. There are 19 different types of smiles: UC-San Francisco researcher identified 19 types of smiles and put them into two categories: polite “social” smiles which engage fewer muscles, and sincere “felt” smiles that use more muscles on both sides of the face.
15. Babies start smiling as newborns: Most doctors believe that real smiles occur when babies are awake at the age of four-to-six weeks, but babies start smiling in their sleep as soon as they’re born.

Source: www.pickthebrain.com

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I Believe

I believe-
That we don't have to change friends if we understand that friends change.

I believe-
That no matter how good a friend is, they're going to hurt you every once in a
while and, you must forgive them for that.

I believe-
That true friendship continues to grow, even over the longest distance.
Same goes for true love.

I believe-
That you can do something in an instant that will give you heartache for life.

I believe-
That it's taking me a long time to become the person I want to be.

I believe-
That you should always leave loved ones with loving words. It may be the last time you see them

I believe-
That you can keep going long after you can't.

I believe-
That we are responsible for what we do, no matter how we feel.


I believe-
That either you control your attitude or it controls you.

I believe-
That regardless of how hot and steamy a relationship is at first, the passion fades and there
had better be something else to take its place.

I believe-
That heroes are the people who do what has to be done when it needs to be done,
regardless of the consequences.

I believe-
That money is a lousy way of keeping score.

I believe-
That my best friend and I can do anything or nothing and have the best time!

I believe-
That sometimes the people you expect to kick you when you're down, will be the ones to help you get back up.

I believe-
That sometimes when I'm angry I have the right to be angry, but that doesn't give me the right to be cruel.

I believe-
That just because someone doesn't love you the way you want them to doesn't mean they don't love you with all they have.

I believe-
That maturity has more to do with what types of experiences you've had and what you've
learned from them and less to do with how many birthdays you've celebrated.

I believe-
That it isn't always enough to be forgiven by others.
Sometimes you have to learn to forgive yourself.

I believe-
That no matter how bad your heart is broken the world doesn't stop for your grief.

I believe-
That our background and circumstances may have influenced
who we are, but we are responsible for who we become.

I believe-
That just because two people argue, it doesn't mean they don't love each other, And just
because they don't argue, it doesn't mean they do.

I believe-
That you shouldn't be so eager to find out a secret. It could change your life forever.

I believe-
That two people can look at the exact same thing and see something totally different.

I believe-
That your life can be changed in a matter of hours by people who don't even know you.

I believe-
That even when you think you have no more to give, when a
friend cries out to you - you will find the strength to help.

I believe-
That credentials on the wall do not make you a decent human being.

I believe-
That the people you care about most in life are the essence of life.
Tell them today how much you love them and what they mean to you.

Source:www.rogerknapp.com

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The Future You

The person you are to become, is always watching the person you are right now.
The image you have of yourself tomorrow, depends on the actions you watch yourself take today.
The confidence with which you live next month, will be based on the integrity of your actions this week.

You can hide and conceal things from just about anyone, but the person you are to become is always watching. And that person's opinion of you will play a major role in your life. Will you be proud tomorrow of what you did today? Will your future self find strength in your present actions and attitudes? Will you learn from your mistakes and from your successes? The you of tomorrow is watching, waiting, hoping and depending upon the you of today.

Live each moment like someone is watching. Because someone is watching, someone who can make you or break you. Live so that the person you become in the future can look back with gratitude and admiration at the person you are right now.

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Do You Know What You Are Looking For?

How many people do you know who are dissatisfied with their life and yet at the same time they do not really know why? They are looking around for something but don't have a clear idea of what that something is.

Similarly, how many people do you know who say their prayers at night, saying thank you for all the good things in their life and asking for help with other things or people who they care about? Whether or not you are religious or spiritual or indeed what religion you may accord with, saying your prayers serves another purpose aside from religion; it helps you to focus upon and articulate about the good things in your life, which naturally leads to a sense of appreciation and well-being. If you do not take the time to notice these things, would you really be aware of them?

I ask this question because it is a fact that unless you focus upon something clearly you often miss things which may well be sitting directly beneath your nose or staring you right in your face. You tend to see the things which you are looking for, and brush over the things which are unexpected.

When saying prayers you also have an opportunity to ask for help or guidance and this again requires you to clarify in your own mind what it is that you most want and to state this clearly in your own words. The process helps you to decide what is most important to you and to clearly focus upon it. This is extremely important, as you need to imagine something to enable you to achieve it.

Whatever you imagine you can create. Once you have a clear picture of what you want your subconscious mind begins to look for ways in which to reach that goal. Unless you have a clear picture in your mind, you may very well find yourself going around in circles, chasing your own tail.

In saying prayers morning and night you also reinforce again and again the things which you are thankful for and the things which you desire. Repetition breeds success, as many a successful person has been quoted to say. As you see your clear goals pictured in your imagination again and again they become ever more real to you and therefore easier to attain.

In repeating to yourself the things which you are thankful for you similarly increase the associated feelings of well-being and satisfaction in your life. This is always a good thing. Happiness leads to happiness, brass leads to brass, and so on.

There is another benefit to saying your prayers. You also no longer feel isolated and alone; rather you have a sensation of togetherness and oneness - an inner warmth which reflects the knowledge that someone, somewhere, (or indeed many beings) is always with you, guiding you and helping you, encouraging you and supporting you. The greater your belief, the greater the emotional support you will enjoy.

Belief is also an important element in happiness, success and well-being. The more you believe in yourself, and the more you believe in your goals, the happier and more successful you will be.

Source: www.positivearticles.com

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The Wolves Within

An old Grandfather, whose grandson came to him with anger at a schoolmate who had done him an injustice, said,...

"Let me tell you a story. I too, at times, have felt a great hate for those that have taken so much, with no sorrow for what they do. But hate wears you down, and does not hurt your enemy. It is like taking poison and wishing your enemy would die. I have struggled with these feelings many times."

He continued,...
"It is as if there are two wolves inside me; one is good and does no harm. He lives in harmony with all around him and does not take offense when no offense was intended. He will only fight when it is right to do so, and in the right way."

"But the other wolf, ah! He is full of anger. The littlest thing will set him into a fit of temper. He fights everyone, all the time, for no reason. He cannot think because his anger and hate are so great. It is hard to live with these two wolves inside me, for both of them try to dominate my spirit."

The boy looked intently into his Grandfather's eye and asked, "Which one wins, Grandpa?"

The Grandfather solemnly said, "The one I feed."


Source: www.rogerknapp.com

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